MEGYN, SHE / HER
Scrutinized. All ways. Always. From being a tomboy and that not being okay or becoming just a phase to being tolerated to being catcalled ALL DAMN DAY. No matter the weather or what I’m wearing catcalling is there. Having to decide, “Do I want the attention today?”, even though that inner voice told me that my style expression felt hella good—it feels like you have to make a choice because people (men) are GOING to react.
Feeling validated. I felt validated that my inner voice, the one that guides this expression was “heard” by being asked to be a part of this.
I’ve just always dressed a little wild, a little different. Ever since making my own clothes as a kid. We also did a lot of thrifting cuz we were broke, so style became more about selecting what felt right and what we liked because we weren’t shopping at malls where style was being tailored. So what was available was limited.
I never have really thought about WHY I dress the way I do. I just DO. The cool thing is when it’s recognized. All kinds of people, from all walks of life—wherever I am, NYC, Berlin, Cincinnati—strangers have complimented my outfits. It’s often people I wouldn’t expect that are inspired by my organic self-expression. People talk to me, people connect with me because of my style. That’s always amazes and delights me.
Instinct. I had an idea of the contrast I could create between the two looks. I didn’t officially choose what I was wearing until the day of. That’s kind of a lie because I ended up wearing what I thought I would. I still think instinct is the right word, because once I settled on the feeling I wanted to focus on, the outfits just matched. With the everyday styling, I wake up and don’t leave the house until I feel “right” in what I’m wearing. It changes daily.
The contrast. How clothes and style can be used to manipulate how others see you. We can use it as a tool too. It was interesting to have an intention, because usually I just follow my intuition.